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Many people have come to a part of their life when they are exploring their identity and ask themselves this question “Who Am I” or “What is my purpose in life”.  Ask yourself this question “Who Am I” and how is your understanding of who you are?  Maybe there is not an immediate problem for you to look at yourself, explore your identity and your life.  Usually people who have personal issues with their life in loosing a job, divorced, separation, financial problems, alcohol problems, or death will delve into themselves and break free in what is keeping them from growing within themselves. 

What do you believe to be true about yourself? As a child we grow up to be told by our parents, teachers, family, church about ourselves in what we possess, what  knowledge base we have or lack, what skills and talents we have or do not have, our values, our worth, and we believe wholeheartedly in what we have been taught.  Of course we believe because they are here for the purpose of nurturing, loving, teaching, and taking care of us. 

Let me tell you a little story that affected me most of my life as a child, teen, and young adult.  I was attending a Catholic School with my sisters and brother, and had difficulty in third grade.  My parents, as many other parents, took the teachers views and beliefs in and never questioned them or their motives.  I was kept back in third grade and the nuns told my parents that I was a slow learner, and my parents believed them.  My parents in turn told me I was a slow learner, which I believed all through my life that I was a slow learner and this belief became my truth.  I finished high school, never pursuing college and started a family at a young age.  In my late 20’s I pursued Junior College, then onto the Universities.  I was then raising four children, a housewife, working full-time, and continuing night courses.  I was determined to become educated, get the best of grades, and go onto obtaining a bachelors degree in Psychology. 

It was not until my 30’s that I started working on myself and asked that question “Who Am I”.  Who was I performing all this for, what is my purpose, what am I trying to prove to others.  My main drive was to prove to my parents, teachers, and society that I am not a slow learner.  I had to look at how I was driving myself into the ground to prove to others that this old belief was not the truth but a lie.  Before I could stop this cycle of having to prove to others, into being accepted as an intelligent person and not a slow learner, I had to first believe it.  I was the driving force of all this, if I wholeheartedly did not believe I was a slow learner, then why was I so determined and working so hard to prove it to be wrong. 

It was not until then that I knew what had to be done to change my low self image and my self belief.   I had to go back and heal that hurt child that believed the Old Belief to be the truth.  In order to turn it around you must see the opposite of truth which is a lie, and make it into a new belief and a new truth of yours.   This old belief and old lie, that I held so close to my being, was other’s and not mine.  In order to change that part of me. the Old Belief needed to die and give life to my  New Belief and New Truth.  This reprogramming is like a computers memory banks, you must delete the old to bring in the new and upload.  This is what happens to our own memory banks, we must explore, research, identify, delete, restore, and take inventory periodically.  My New Belief System and New Truth System lives on as I continue my venture in “Who Am I”.

I leave you with these questions;  What would you like to do and accomplish?  What good would you like to attract into your life?  What particular areas of growth would you like to attract into your life?  What blocks or character defects would you like to change?  What would you like to happen in friendships and loves?  Give it your all - I will help you along!